I have wanted to write about this topic on many different occasions but didn't know how I wanted to present it. I didn't want to seem like the oversensitive special needs mom. I often wondered if it really wasn't a big deal and I should just get over it but the bottom line is I can't. If you're reading this, I'm assuming we are friends or that Tyler has snuck a place in your heart as he has done with many. That is why I am asking you to join the movement to end the R-word. I won't deny that I'm absolutely sure this word passed my lips many many times prior to Tyler and I didn't give it a second thought. However, now it has meaning. My stomach sinks and my heart beats a little quicker everytime I hear someone use this to describe themselves when they spill a drink or do something less than stellar. I can show you a stack of medical papers that use this word to describe my son. When you call someone a "retard" or "retarded", you are implying that they are slow or did something stupid. You are using it in a negative and degrading fashion. I promise you 100% that there is nothing negative about this guy or his abilities. He loves unconditionally and faces challenges you or I will never understand.
I felt that if I never said anything, I wasn't speaking up for Tyler and I wasn't speaking up for my feelings. I'll end this post with a request that you join the movement to end the R-word and sign the pledge. Share this post and share the website. Be a voice and spark a change. Love to you all.
Sign the pledge here: http://www.r-word.org/Default.aspx
Watch this for a laugh:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H-DH9hydzMI